Love is...

I am not patient with Caedmon, especially when he nags, cries and whines. 

I am rude to Adam, especially when things don't go my way. 

I am irritable. I am resentful. I do not  bear all things or endure all things with a heart of patience or hope. Did I mention I get irritable? 

I don't always act in love. 

This morning, I wrote these thoughts in my journal, after reading some of God's Word:

"Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

It is easy to lose sight of the gospel, to lose sight of our sin and become arrogant in our success. It's easy to look at this verse at weddings and reflect on the awesomeness of love, but our day to day doesn't change. After this morning, however, I have a new perspective on this verse.To me, this scripture is an easy place to start for recognizing areas of improvement in my life, recognizing sin and changing my life to better reflect Jesus.  

We are commanded in Matthew 22:37-39 to "love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all our soul and with all your mind," as well as to "love your neighbor as yourself." My neighbor includes my husband, my brother in Christ; it includes my child; it includes my literal neighbors; it even calls us to love those who persecute you (Matthew 5:44). 

If I am to love even my enemies, I definitely need to work on acting in love to my own spouse and child - whom are much easier to love even in the whining, misunderstandings and bad dinners. 

We must remember that our situation isn't hopeless. I must remember that my situation isn't hopeless; I have hope when I'm not acting lovingly. I have this hope in the power that God leaves with us by his Holy Spirit. By His Spirit, we are able to resist sin; we are empowered and given guidance (John 16:8-11). So, when I'm not acting lovingly, I can approach God, confessing my sin, leaving it at the cross and finding new strength to resist sin and be loving in the Holy Spirit. 

Through Christ, I will be patient with Caedmon, especially when he nags, cries and whines. 

Through Christ, I will not be rude to Adam, especially when things don't go my way. 

Through Christ, I am pleasant. I am thankful. I bear all things and endure all things with a heart of patience and hope. 

Through Christ, I act in love. 

The ministry of womanhood....Part I

As I listened to my friend pour out her heart, I saw the tears form in her eyes. “I gave up everything. I’m married to the military. I had a great career and gave it up for this, and now I’ve lost who I am.” My heart ached for her and the hurt she was carrying; the insignificance, thankless hours of mothering, the many transitions of her military life, and the overwhelming feelings of loneliness in her marriage and life. Her feelings of insignificance and the loss of identity resonated in my own heart. I realized that her words were the same battle I had been fighting for many years, through different stages and seasons of life, but becoming a mother has been particularly challenging for me. 

First, let me say that the Bible is the first and only place you need look to find significance. I have found this to be true and trustworthy. My son, and only child, is not far from four, and since he was born, I have struggled with my role as a mother. Daily, I find new truths, hope and joy in God's Word, and I know that is the only place one needs to look. Whether you are a mother or not, do you believe you are exactly where you need to be, doing exactly what God needs you to do? In Ephesians 1:11 Paul writes God "works all things according to the counsel of his will." He didn't accidentally make me a mother; He planned it and wanted it in His plan. Wherever you are, he has worked it all according to His plan and His will. Do you trust that? 

Second, if you are a follower of Jesus Christ, he has specifically designed good works for you to do (Ephesians 2:10). We are God's workmanship, he created us "for good works" and "we should walk in them." Wherever you are, God has you there for a purpose. We recently received orders from the Army to move, ultimately by God's Hand, we are moving hundreds of miles away. Just the other day, a friend reminded me that this move is going to open all new areas of ministry for me and Adam. As much as I dreaded this move in the beginning, I eagerly await what God has in store for us in this move because He has work for me there - as a mother, as a wife, as a military family and in more ways that I won't know until He shows me. 

The final thing I want to share for today is this verse, "Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time..." (Ephesians 5:15-16). As mothers, as wives, as single women, as military or non-military families, we need to take our work seriously and make the best use of our time. I know that I need to prioritize my life, look at what God has set before me, and where my focus has to be... and right now, it's the little boys jumping off the stairs... so take a few minutes today, soak up God's Word, reflect where he has placed you and what he has placed before you. Prioritize, and if you feel like it, please share those priorities with me (as well as any hope or significance you've found in Christ - I'd LOVE to hear about it). You can e-mail me at alkbpotter@gmail.com. 

"Lord, forgive my brevity in prayer today, as you've blessed me with the opportunity to spend my morning with three little hearts full of fearlessness and adventure. Bless us as women to see your hand at work in our lives. Motivate us to live for you, finding our significance only in you and your love. Thank you, Jesus, for your sacrifice and love - YOU have proven that I am worth it to you, even when I don't deserve it. May we share your love with those around use today. In Jesus Name, Amen." 

"There in the ground His body lay,

Light of the world by darkness slain;

Then bursting forth in glorious day,

Up from the grave He rose again!

And as He stands in victory,

Sin's curse has lost its grip on me;

For I am His and He is mine—

Bought with the precious blood of Christ."

- In Christ Alone

Overcome by the amazing love and grace of God this evening, I found myself kneeling, face to the floor in prayer, in thanksgiving, in praise. What a wonderful God I serve! My prayer is that you know the wonder of his love and the grace available to you as well! 

In the last several weeks, I found myself wrestling with my depressions, wrestling with a sometimes overwhelming sense of loneliness, anger, frustration and overall unrest. It wouldn't take one long to recognize that the last several weeks have had enough trouble and stress to make me this way, but I had lost my way, lost my joy, lost my hope, lost my focus. 

In Living the Cross Centered Life, C.J. Mahaney writes, "What will bring rest and release is spending more time meditating on the cross and the God of the cross. So I point to the cross of Christ, for there's no great encouragement, and no greater motivation for everything God has called you to do and experience in life, than to recognize His love for you in His darkest hour, and to receive His care for you in your darkest hour" (page98). 

I wouldn't say that my darkest hour was today, but I did realize that by focusing on the cross I gained what I needed the most; focusing on the sacrifice and love of Jesus has given me rest, encouragement and strength. When I focus on the cross, where Jesus' reality was being forsaken, being alone, having taken the abandonment we deserved on himself, then I realize my minor suffering is known by him. I know that there is hope for tomorrow, and however I may feel right now is temporary. When I realize I never have to be alone, there is joy to be found. Nehemiah 8:10 reads, "the joy of the Lord is your strength." 

May the sacrifice of Jesus and forgiveness offered by that sacrifice be yours today! May the joy of the Lord truly be your strength today! I'm amazed by God's great grace, by his sacrifice, by his love for me. I am amazed! Are you in awe of the great love of Christ for you? He suffered that our darkest days would only be temporary. 

I don't mean to be "preachy" in this blog, but simply share how incredible the love of the Lord is to me, and I hope to you as well. 

"Dear Lord, thank you for the forgiveness of sins through Jesus' sacrifice.  Thank you that prayer is possible through that sacrifice on the cross. Thank you that if we choose to believe in you, acknowledging our sin and need of a Savior, that you offer us forgiveness. You endured God's wrath for my sins that the relationship with God could exist. Thank you for your Holy Spirit, given to dwell with me, lead me, guide me and strengthen me every day. Bless me and bless those that share in your salvation, that we would have all we need to obey you. Motivate us with the memory of the cross to do the work you have set out for us to do. Thank you, Heavenly Father. In Jesus' precious name, Amen." 

I buried my face in my hands for the hundredth time this week, feeling overwhelmed, alone, and frightened by yet another unknown as we faced our future move. You see, we bought our first home in May, in a small village of great neighbors. Within three short months, Adam received military orders to move. To move not only from our first home, our families within a days' drive, but the new friendships we had been searching for the last several months. It would all change, and now seven months later, when the move seemed less frightening, our home renting situation changed and we were starting over from square one - interviewing property managers, adjusting finances, planning our own move,looking for a new place to live hundreds of miles away, and now we had to find new renters for our home. What makes it all worse is that because of Adam's intense coursework for his new position, he's unable to help me. So, I am interviewing property managers; I am looking for housing across the country; I am cleaning and organizing the house for showings; I am managing the budget and paying bills; I am entertaining and conversing with our young son, and he isn't able to help me. 

I give up. 

Then, three things happened today. First, God reminds me that he is a God of compassion. Compassion defined by Merriam-Webster means "a feeling of wanting to help someone" or "sympathetic consciousness of others' distress together with a desire to alleviate it." Isaiah 54:10 reminded me, not only that the Lord has compassion on me, but that his steadfast love doesn't leave me, nor does his covenant of peace. No matter where I am, no matter how I feel, God's great love, unending love, it's ever present. His love, his peace, and his compassion are upon me. Praise the Lord! 

Second, I was introduced to a new friend today, who has just begun her first blog. Check out Kayla's blog at learning to be a godly wife. Kayla isn't a local friend, in fact, my Uncle Tim introduced us via facebook, and I don't know where Kayla lives! It was God's reminder to me that friendships that are God-given transcend distance. As a military spouse, I should always remember this, as some of my dearest friends are hundreds of miles away. But, God used this new friend to encourage me, whether she knows that or not. 

Third, I read another blog LIFE AS OF LATE, where she wisely writes, 

"I can hear God saying, 'It’s. about. time. You don’t have enough patience. You don’t have enough energy. You don’t have enough gentleness. But you know who does? Me. And I’m happy to lend you some of mine…but do you know how much I give you? Enough for today. Enough for this moment. Enough that you’ll need me again tomorrow. And the next day, and every day for the rest of your life.' "

2 Corinthians 12:10 reads, "For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses...for when I am weak, then I am strong." This is the prayer I have for myself this week, to be content with weakness, to be content with my inability to do it all, to let Christ work through me that all that IS accomplished is by and for His glory. 

I hope that my raw, rough, and poorly constructed sharing this evening encourages you if you are feeling alone, lost, or weak this evening and this week. We have a compassionate Lord that steadfastly loves us and cares for us, offering peace when we need it the most. He thrives in our weakness, and may we find contentment in that weakness. 

I want to make it a habit to close my writing in prayer, so please join me. 

"Lord, I want to thank you for the work you are doing with this small blog. I hope that whomever reads this is encouraged, as well as strengthened knowing your love, peace, and compassion are always present when we feel the weakest. Let us be content in our weakness and earnestly ask and seek your help this week. Thank you, Jesus, for the relationship we are able to have with you because of the cross; let us never forget the sacrifice and suffering you endured for your great love for us. Thank you, Jesus. In Your Precious Name, Amen." 

Nehemiah 9:17,28 "But you are a God ready to forgive, gracious and merciful, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love, and did not forsake them...(28) and many times you delivered them according to your mercies."

These verses popped out this morning, and as always, I needed to share the hope that God's Word provides us daily. I love how verse 17 describes God first. He is ready to forgive. We are going to mess up as sinful beings. When we recognize our sin and go to God, He is already waiting and ready to forgive us. He is gracious and merciful. Graciousness can be "characterized by...generosity of spirit," according to Merriam-Webster. Thirty-one, a consultant-based business of which I am a part, describes being gracious as "having a servant's heart." We see this aspect of God very present in his Son, Jesus' life. He is also merciful. Rather than treat us harshly and as we deserve, he forgives and offers kindness.  He came to us, demonstrating his kindness, compassion and a true servant's heart. Finally, He abounds in steadfast love. He is constant; His love is unchanging. 

Because of God's attributes, his character, he did not forsake and does not forsake us. He will not leave us; he does not abandon us or expect us to do it on our own. Hebrews 13:5 reminds us that He "will never leave you nor forsake you," and just as God promised Joshua, his promise remains. 

In Nehemiah, this particular part of scripture is referring to Israel, God's chosen people. He delivered them. Not one. Not twice, but over and over and over again, whether it be from war, destruction or slavery - even a bad king!  He delivered his people and redirected them. God does the same for us when we find ourselves with the same daily battles, emotional, physical or spiritual.  Daily, we are being renewed, as it tells us in 2 Corinthian 4:16 "So we do not lose heart...our inner self is being renewed day by day." God is merciful, and according to his mercies, his character, his attributes, we know that daily we can seek him for new strength and mercy to battle our daily struggles. 

He will deliver us many times, just as he did Israel. Do you trust Him enough to look to Him daily and turn it all over to Him?  

I want to take a moment to pray for us today: 

"Dear Lord, thank you for all those that read this. My prayer is that they come away today feeling encouraged by who YOU are, Lord.  Lord, forgive me for my daily battle of yelling and frustration, when I should be patient and nurturing. I come desiring to serve you faithfully and with all of my heart (1 Samuel 12:24). Encourage us with your forgiveness, mercy, graciousness, patience and steadfast love for each of us. Thank you for delivering us and for never forsaking us. In Jesus' name, Amen." 

Are you really listening?

"If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame." Proverbs 18:13

It shouldn't be hard to believe that we have an opportunity to build someone up simply by listening to them. As women, we hear or understand the simple phrase, "I just wanted him to listen." My husband is a fixer, and he epitomizes the man that wants to fix instead of listen. I recognize now that he is built that way; he isn't me, and I cannot expect him to react or be as subtle and passive as I tend to be. In fact, I love that he is blunt and straight-forward. So, when my husband wants to fix my problems instead of listening, I usually realize I need to find someone else to talk to, whether my mom or another female friend, or the best friend I have in Jesus Christ.

I opened this brief section with Proverbs 18:13 because I recognized where I often fail with this verse. I often become distracted with my own life, even while a friend could be confiding private things to me. What kind of response must I give when I am so distracted I don't really listen?

Shamefully, I have one experience in particular that haunts me to this day because it is the worst advice or opinion I have ever given. A friend had been struggling with her marriage for two years; I had heard her stories, struggles and frustrations repeatedly. She had spoken to me about divorcing her husband several times, and I had encouraged her to utilize counseling resources, bought them books to work through, and listened to her vent time and time again. Finally, I ran out of patience, and instead of turning to Christ for a reserve of strength and patience, I blurted out the response I feel guilty over still today; I told her she ought to do something or just stop talking about it.

Thinking of this particular situation, I gave an answer before I heard her entire story that day. It might have been the same story I had heard before, but it was not fair for me to jump to my response. To this day, I feel that I could have better encouraged her to work through the difficult marriage simply by hearing her frustration and hurt that day, and it is to my shame and folly I did not hear her like a real friend should have.

Since becoming a mother, I find my mind often preoccupied and life full of three year old emergencies at some of the worst possible times. As much as I would love to think I can multi-task, my REAL focus is either very torn and distracted, or I am really only focused on one thing while I half-heartedly do others.

Television is a terrible distraction for me. If I have to have a serious conversation, I prefer the television be turned off or else I forget something important said or that I need to say. Recognizing we cannot focus is the first step to avoiding later regret. Asking a friend to call back or scheduling a time to really give them your attention may not be opportune, but it will free you to give them the real encouraging listener they want.

Just the other day, I had a phone call from a friend, where she shared wonderful news; however, within five minutes of my conversation with Tessa, my three year old had world shattering need (really not world shattering, but to him it was!). Not knowing what else to do, I simply asked Tessa if I could call her back at a time when she could have more of my attention. It was that simple. I wanted to give my friend the focus and attention she needed and deserved.

Is there someone that you need to listen to right now? Why not give her a call or set up a coffee date to really listen to one another?

Desperate for Strength, Help and Rest

I just finished chapter one of Desperate, by Sarah Mae and Sally Clarkson, and I find myself in tears. So easily I see that I can forgot that God is ever-present. These wonderful ladies share two verses at the end of the chapter, that I want to share as well today.

Isaiah 41:10 "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."

Matthew 11:28 "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."

These verses have touched my life today, just where I am: a frustrated mom up at 5AM with a three year-old, a restless night of sleep because of the same three year old, weary of the endless effort to create and maintain a clean home, which ultimately leaves me frustrated and weary with myself for failing yet again at the supermom, superwife, superfriend juggling act.

However, feeling absolutely trodden and in a slump of depression, their words and those verses have picked me up. In all honesty, if you suffer from depression, I still have that dull depression that lingers, but I have more hope today, for the now. Looking more closely at those verses, I prayed that God would strengthen me, help me, uphold me, and give me much-needed rest in Him today. I have hope that although the house isn't perfectly clean, Caedmon took a nap an hour late, and I still have more to do beyond this blog post before Adam gets done at work (laundry, cleaning, prep dinner), God is right here with me, right now, giving me the strength, the hope, the rest and refreshment I needed.  And, because of this great promise and great hope in Him, I could not help but take a few moments to share this with you, my few but wonderful friends and readers. Take a moment today and really soak in those two verses, and thank our God and Savior who does not leave us and abandon us in our moment when we feel like failures and the struggles of life, whether work, motherhood, or marriage.

Dear Lord, I ask today that you would be with those that read this, allow them to feel refreshed by your Word, in which there is such blessing. You are the giver of strength, of help, of support, of rest; may we turn to you today and feel your presence in the midst of our every day. In Jesus' name, Amen!

THANK YOU to the dear ladies who wrote Desperate; it is a must read if you have the time, even without little ones, I feel their wisdom and biblical reminders are like little shots of espresso in a moment of need (I like coffee). So, if you are in the market for and uplifting read, a book of encouragement when you are desperate, this is the book for you!

Congratulations to Crystal S., Alicia A., and Karen C. on winning their copy of Darlene Schachts e-book!

Today's special: Humble Pie...

This week, I have been served a massive helping of humble pie. Sunday's Super Bowl party left this woman a little too partied; I drank too much. I have spent the last day brewing over how to confess my sin via the blog, and whether I should or not. Ultimately, I decided I would openly shame myself, possibly jeopardizing the willingness of people to follow my blog, and to confess that I messed up. Why? Because I needed some humble pie. I would be going against the very transparency I wanted to portray by starting this if I pretended I never messed up.

I cannot justify my poor choices that led to drunkenness. I can share my confession, my prayer, and the promise of forgiveness I have because of a repentant heart. Let me first share some of my prayer that I wrote in my journal last night:

"Lord, I really messed up, and I feel such regret and failure. I drank way too much last night...Lord, thank you for this guilt, this shame, recognizing how I have failed you, disappointed you - I missed or possibly ruined an opportunity to witness to others.

I am sorry, God. I'm sorry for drinking so much my mouth and words were unguarded. I'm sorry for not being more like Christ [in the way I behaved]. I confess I sinned, and I am sorry. Please, Lord, please forgive me...God, I hope I have an opportunity to continue to write to bring others to you and encourage their walks.

Lord, give me a repentant heart. Help me not to go overboard with alcohol again. Please, God, forgive me for drinking too much. Forgive me also for my failure to bring you glory and honor. Help me to start each day anew in your forgiveness; may I bring you honor in ALL I do. In Jesus' name, Amen."

This morning, my quiet time was spent in Daniel 9, where Daniel prayers for his people, and I didn't feel so alone, but I also felt guided in my prayers this morning. My cry this morning is like that of David's in Psalm 38:18; he says, "I confess my iniquity; I am sorry for my sin" (ESV). That's my cry to God today. Daniel 9:3-4 reads, "then I turned my face to the Lord God, seeking him by prayer and pleas for mercy with fasting and sackcloth and ashes. I prayed to the Lord my God and made confession." Daniel also prays, "we have entreated the favor of the Lord our God, turning from our iniquities and gaining insight by your truth." (Daniel 9:13). And, finally in verse 18, he declares, "for we do not present our pleas before you because of our righteousness, but because of your great mercy."

I praise God that in this chapter, these verses, I found direction, encouragement, and hope for my failure. First, you see that Daniel goes to God, confessing and seeking forgiveness, which was my first step last evening after a day of shameful recovery, and again I prayed this morning. "Turning from [my] iniquities" and in hopes of "gaining insight," I am attempting a fast for a better part of the day, spending time instead in God's Word and in prayer. You won't find me in sackcloth, but I am bearing my heart to you, as well as my intimate conversations with God. In verse 18, I found my greatest hope and encouragement; it is not by my righteousness I present my request for forgiveness, but because God is merciful, I can trust that he forgives me. So, I humbly admit to you all my faults and this particular failure. Perhaps you have some sin in your life, perhaps nothing this major, but you, too, can come before our father in confession and trust that by HIS mercy and righteousness he forgives. Praise the Lord.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:9


(This is an incredibly honest and weighty topic for me to share with you all, so I ask you for forgiveness and for understanding. I know this may not be what you wanted to be encouraged by or read on my blog, but in an earnest desire to be transparent, I wrote this. I truly am in the "trenches", working through the muck of sin and failure, and hopefully I am not alone.)

Faith. Who, me? What, and how?

After identifying and assessing my personal gifts, I really got stuck on faith. I am not boasting because I, honestly, think the questions were wrong or I am not being honest with myself in regards to my faith. It was only just over three years ago, I remember crying and panicking because I was a new mother, discussing Adam's deployment at the time with my sister, Denee. I was terrified to lose my husband, terrified to raise a child without a father, and I was panicking, not just worried, panicking. This is just evidence of my fear, worry and overall lack of faith. So, today, I wanted to dig into faith. What is it, and how do we use it?

(Adam is now home, of course; he returned safely, unharmed, and there was A LOT of prayer that happened in the six months until he did come home after Caedmon's birth. Praise The Lord for his safety!)

What is faith?  Maybe this is an easy answer to you, but I wanted a definition. For that I looked at two sources, the wonderful dictionary-concordance in my bible and the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, and these are the definitions I found:

"Belief and trust in God; knowing that God is real, even though we  can't see him" NIV Dictionary-Concordance

"Strong believe or trust in someone or something" OR a "firm belief in something for which there is no proof; complete trust." Merriam-Webster Dictionary.

As Christians, it is clear that our belief in God, in Jesus Christ, is based on faith. We initially come to our belief in Christ through faith, believing God exists, believing Christ died for our sins, believing he rose from the dead; all of that is faith, and we are made righteous in Christ through that faith (Romans 3:22). Faith is therefore a basis for our Christianity. Faith in Jesus Christ is our foundation.

Faith is a way of life, a lifelong journey. Once we accept Christ as our Savior, our journey of faith is only beginning; as we grow in our relationship with Christ, our growth demands more faith. Romans 1:17 says "the righteous shall live by faith." We continue in faith after our acceptance of Christ, trusting our life and change to Him.

Our faith deepens, it grows as we trust in God and allow him opportunities to do more than we ever imagined possible. 2 Peter 1:5 tells us to "supplement your faith" or add to your faith, and it goes on to list virtue, knowledge, self-control, steadfastness, godliness, brotherly affection and love. Our faith is the building block for so much more in our lives. It's an opportunity to become more like Christ, which is really what our salvation and life in Christ should produce.

 In addition to our life becoming a journey of faith, faith produces. Faith should have results. Our faith without action is really not faith at all. "So also faith apart from works is dead." (James 2:26). Faith without action is worthless, it is dead; faith becomes powerless and without effect when it is not utilized. I doubted so greatly my abilities and God's capacity to use me, that I neglected beginning a blog or trying to write at all for over a year, nearly two years! I did not have faith that God could use me. You can see now that I have taken a step of faith, some action, by starting to write for God. And, I pray that God allows me to continue to grow in faith through this experience and those to come.

I'll close with two verses, share a Pinterest-found meme, and by simply saying that after this short study of faith, more than ever I feel incapable. However, I know God is able.

"If you have faith like a grain of mustard seed...nothing will be impossible for you." Matthew 17:20

"I can do all things through him who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13

Spiritual Gifts and Practical Uses

I apologize for not sharing my follow-up earlier, but time, as usual, is a rare commodity, and quite honestly, I had important people to focus on - Adam and Caedmon. I hope you understand that, and I am sure you also have important people and things in your life. Back from my brief tangent, I wanted to share my results assessments I took, and to some this may be a surprise and to others it seemed crystal clear.

Before taking the assessment, I first asked my husband what he expected my spiritual gifts to be; his response was discernment and administration, and I would have been honored to have the gift of discernment. I didn't. My top two gifts are mercy and encouragement, followed by a two-way tie for third with knowledge and faith. I have a difficult time to admit that I have those qualities; I have a hard time seeing that I am really good at anything though. I want to avoid being proud, and in the end, I find that I only degrade and belittle myself and my a God-given abilities.  When I limit myself, am I limiting God's abilities to use me?

If you do not know already, I am still new and still nervous about the "blog scene"; constantly I question my abilities to write, encourage and share Jesus' love and compassion with others. And, after nearly a year or two of "thinking" about writing and talking about writing, I am finally doing. For nearly two years I did not act. When I think about the time I could have been growing in my teaching or writing or encouraging abilities, it saddens me. I also realize that by not acting, I doubted God's abilities to use me and the gifts he has given me.

Is there something on your heart that you feel God leading you to do?  If so, I would love to hear about it; I would love to hear about you spiritual gifts, too. More importantly than telling me, it is essential that you stop "thinking" and start trying, finding avenues to use your gifts. As we are told in Romans 12:6-8, by grace we are given different gifts and let us do them!

Building your House: Seeking your Spiritual Gifts

I have a confession to make: I am not a perfect wife. And, everyone says “well, duh?” I will tell you what though, some days I try so hard to be a great help meet and fail in major ways. I work to have the entire house clean, have a quiet time, exercise, play with our son, finish laundry, have a wonderful meal cooked, and be singing and smiling when my husband walks in the door. That does not happen. Exhaustion happens, unexpected delays happen, I just don’t feel like it or if you are a mother (or pet owner) you know what happens when something is cleaned - the child (or pet) follows every clean room to make it messy again. If this is not you on at least one day, then tell me how you do it, please!

Today, I came across a verse that just inspired me to really dig in, and hopefully I can and you can help me! Proverbs 14:1 reads, “The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” It made me see first, that I want to be a wise woman, and secondly, I want to be a woman that builds her house, not tears it down. We all see women tear their family’s down lately, and a lot of women tear down or shut down their husbands. When at Home posted a wonderful blog titled “Let Your Husband Love You,” which I believe we often do, if you are a stay at home mom or not! After a long day, with or without children, I think everyone is at least a little tired and we tend to push those closest to us away because it’s easier. I don’t want to repeat what she said, so you can go check that out.

As wives or mothers, whether staying at home or working outside the home, we have unique opportunities and skills to offer our families. In neglecting our God-given talents and skills, our lives, our husbands, our children - our homes - miss out on the “building” we can do. So, I encourage you to do these things with me:

• Read up on the spiritual gifts in the bible (1 Corinthians 12:1-11, Romans 12:6-8).

• Identify your spiritual gifts. There are online programs that offer tests and evaluations to help you, if you are like me, and struggle to see them. Ask a friend or two what they see to be your talents and gifts. Try to identify 1-3 areas in which you are successful. 

• Elmertowns Spiritual Gifts Assessment

• Lifeway PDF File

• Try to identify practical ways in your home you do or can “build” your home with your skills and gifts, and please, please, please share them with me. If you are uncomfortable posting them as a comment, you can join my facebook page, message me via the facebook page, or e-mail me. 

Tomorrow, or later this evening, I am going to try to share my evaluation(s), and maybe we can build on this topic of “building our homes.”

Daniel's Wisdom

During my personal bible study time, I have been spending some time in the book of Daniel. Today I want to share some thoughts from the first two chapters of Daniel; I encourage you to read Chapter 2:12-30.

King Nebuchadnezzar had a troubling dream, and he demanded an interpretation of the dream from all the magicians, sorcerers, wise men and astrologers of the time. When no one was able to respond, the king "commanded that all the wise men of Babylon be destroyed" (verse 12, NIV), this included Daniel and his three friends, which many of us know as Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego (also named Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah). It is Daniel's response in this urgent and life-threatening time that made me realize that his response can teach us how to deal with stressful situations, and every day life.

When you act, do so with wisdom and discretion. Daniel's life was on the line, and instead of panicking or responding harshly, he responds with wisdom and prudence (see Daniel 2:14). Merriam-Webster defines these (prudence and wisdom) as "cautious" and having "good sense or judgment." When Arioch, the king's captain, came to take Daniel into custody, instead of fighting with him, he uses good sense and judgment, cautiously asking why this is happening.

Don't rush. Daniel did not run into Nebuchadnezzar with answers right away. In chapter 2, verse 16, "Daniel went in to the king and asked for time." Sometimes when we face a difficult situation, the wise response is sometimes no response at all for a time. Daniel knew that he did not have the answers right then; he knew he needed to wait. When we face challenges, it is often best not to make rash decisions, but to step back and wait until we are sure of our response and where God is leading us.

Go to God in prayer. Ask friends for prayer. This is a two-fold point. When Daniel is permitted time to interpret the king's dream, he goes to his companions, his godly friends. He asks them to pray, to "seek mercy from the God of heaven." He takes time to go to the ultimate source of wisdom. Job 12:13 reads, "With God are wisdom and might; he has counsel and understanding." Daniel sought out God's wisdom and mercy in this difficult situation, and he did not do so alone. We do not have to be alone in difficult times, sometimes friendships are there to encourage us. In Matthew 18:20, we are encouraged to pray with others; "For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them."

Give blessing and credit to God. We need to take time to give praise and credit to God. When God revealed the dream and interpretation to Daniel, the first thing he did was not to run to the king with the answer, but he praised God (see verses 20-23). After taking time to thank and praise his heavenly Father, he then also tells the king that it's by the God in heaven that he interprets his dream, not of his own abilities.

Daniel's response to this time of stress and possible death is an example to us when we feel like things are falling apart. There have been many times for me, when the encouragement I needed comes from God's word, a good friend, or patience in time of trial. Daniel was certainly a man of wisdom, granted by God, and we can seek to be like him by seeking God's wisdom, not just in times of trial, but daily. Thanks be to God for his eternal Word and comfort.

Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."

Our weakness is God's opportunity...

After sharing the wonderful news of my first blog giveaway, a friend reminded me that this could really boost traffic to my blog. That should excite me and get me really motivated, but it terrifies me to know that more people will see what I write, criticize my work or me, and I feel incapable and unprepared to deal with all that comes with "more traffic." However, my dear friend's next text gave me the hope and clarity to deal with the fear; she said, "we've been praying for an avenue to show how God worked [and works] in your life, I'd say this is a good answer to prayer."

I have for several weeks been struggling with feelings of inadequacy, and God has repeatedly brought me to 1 Timothy 4:11-16, where Paul writes Timothy:

"Command and teach these things. Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity...Do not neglect the gift you have...Practice these things, immerse yourself in them, so that all may see your progress. Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching. Persist in this..."

I am young, been married a short five years, have one child (and likely no more), my child is not yet four; I do not have years of life experience to draw on. To this day, my best intentions can turn into sin and failure; I find myself yelling angrily at my three year old, frustrated at a package that won't open, one drink can turn into one too many. I am not a perfect steward of finances. I am not good at establishing boundaries, getting housework done, or prioritizing my life. These are all areas I continue to work on in my life. I can list all day my faults, failures, and sin. My youth, inexperience, and continued failures bring me to a point of inadequacy and I feel like giving up before I start. However, Paul addressed this issue with Timothy, where perhaps he felt inadequate and young. Paul says "let no one despise you for your youth." I cannot allow my feelings of inadequacy to hinder God's work in me. Because, after all, I cannot, but HE can. With every every failure, every mistake I make, if I confess and repent, God grants me grace (1 John 1:9). So, I am reminded today of 2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me."

So, I share more gladly my weaknesses, struggles, and insecurity, because Christ's power makes this blog, my writing, a possibility. It's important for me to keep trying, to continue to be a work in progress. If you followed my first couple of posts, you also realized I changed the name of my blog. After weeks of contemplation and various drafts that you may or may not see in the future, I realized what a work in progress I am, that my life is Jesus' work in progress. Darlene Schacht writes on her page, that she is "nothing without the grace of God," and that is where I feel I am. I am nothing without the grace and help of God. And, I see again where Paul addresses this issue, "set the believers an example [in four areas I hope to address in another post]... so that all may see your progress." To me, it seems that Timothy was young, did not have it all together, and was a work in progress for Jesus as well. Paul urged him to be an example, to live a life demonstrating Jesus to others in the way he spoke, lived, and treated others. And because no one has it all together, Paul reminds him to do so that others see his progress.

This is ultimately what I hope: to leave what is in the past there, learning from it, pressing on (Philippians 3:13-14), relying on God's grace (1 John 1:9), his strength in my weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9) to set an example and show how God progresses a person; to show how God continues to use me as a work in progress.

I am inadequate, my closest friends see my inadequacies often, especially my dear husband (Thank you for loving me anyhow, Adam!). However, when I know I cannot, that is when I recognize it is by God's grace alone it's accomplished - like this blog. Do you see his hands at work in your life? I would love to hear about how Jesus continues to to help you, you dear work in progress.


Psalm 143:10 "Teach me to do your will, for you are my God; may your good Spirit lead me on level ground."

James 1:5 "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith with no doubting..."

Hebrews 12:1 "Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us."

GIVEAWAY: Darlene Schacht's The Virtuous Life of a Christ-Centered Wife

WOW!  This morning has brought some amazing news. If you cannot tell from the title Darlene Schacht, from timewarpwife.com and author of several amazing bible studies and books, has offered her new title as a giveaway for my small, but growing blog! I am so excited to share Darlene's book with you all, and she has offered three copies for the giveaway - WHAT A BLESSING!

If you cannot tell by all the exclamation points, I am very excited about this giveaway.  Darlene is woman who loves Jesus, she's a wife, and mother of four.  She is an inspiration to me, personally, and I am excited to share her blog and book with you; if you have not already checked out her site, please do!

You can see more about the book here.

See the widget on the bottom of the blog page to enter!  (Please be patient with me as this is my first giveaway!)